7 Reasons Why Failure is a Good Thing

Failure is such a negative word that it seems strange to suggest that it can be a good thing.  How many times have you looked back on your life, thought of mistakes you’ve made, and kicked yourself over them? I know I sure have. I have had many failures in my life. I have lost a job; I have mismanaged my money; and I have had trouble in relationships. But life goes on as it should.

You see many people allow failure to hold them back, when in reality failure can be a good thing! Fear of failure prevents many people from following their dreams or having a go at something new. Fear of failing is failure in itself because it holds back so many would-be success stories.  I often remember what Zig Ziglar once said, “Failure is an event, not a person.”  How profound is that?!

History has shown that the most successful exploits frequently came on the back of failure. Just think of Winston Churchill. He failed the sixth grade and was defeated in every single election for public office until he became Prime Minister at the young age of 62. Or, how about Albert Einstein. He did not speak until he was four years old, and couldn’t read until he was seven. His parents thought he was “sub-normal.” He was expelled from school and his teachers described him as “mentally slow, unsociable and adrip forever in foolish dreams.” You see where I am going with this. Failure is actually on our side. Failing allows us to grow, learn, and find new opportunities. Here is what I mean:

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Failure means you have courage

Even though you didn’t get the results you wanted, at least you were trying to do something. So many people let the fear of failure prevent them from reaching for their dreams. So don’t be worried about a failure – at least you had the courage to have a go. Courage is not the absence of fear; it is feeling the fear and taking action anyway. When you have a go, despite the possibility of failure, you show that you have great courage.

Failure makes you stronger

When you don’t get the result you want, you can become more determined to succeed. At first you probably feel discouraged, frustrated or upset but these feelings don’t last forever. You then get a burst of determination and strength of purpose to try again. Failure makes you more focused on a successful outcome next time.

Failure helps you learn

It was Thomas Edison who said that he hadn’t failed in his hundreds of attempts to create the light bulb. His answer when questioned about his ‘failures’ was that he hadn’t failed, he had just found hundreds of ways that it didn’t work. This is the mentality of geniuses and successful people. Failure to get the results you wanted is not a negative thing; it is simply an opportunity to try a different method. It is also the opportunity to start again.

Failure helps you grow

When your efforts don’t work out, you have to reach deep inside to find the strength to try again. To solve the problem and make sure you get the desired result, you need to extend yourself and so you grow. You need to stretch and possibly move outside your comfort zone. After experiencing failure, you will never be the same as you were before you tried. You don’t know how far you can go until you have tried and failed.

Failure creates new opportunities

Many people believe that everything happens for a reason, we just don’t know what it is at the time. Failures often bring unforeseen opportunities that would not have been available without the failure in the first place. You often need to close one door so that another door of opportunity can be opened for you. Failure is a way of one door closing. Failure is seldom the end; it is often a bright beginning.

Failure provides answers

If you don’t try and fail, you will never know if your idea or method is going to work. You spend time worrying that you don’t have the answer; you wonder whether it would have worked. The pain of regret is far worse than the pain of failure. When you fail, you can start again; with regret, you will never know.

Failure gives you the best chance of success

Research out of Stanford University has shown that those who are the top of their field are the ones who have failed the most. Having to persevere to learn a new skill gives you the advantage over someone who gets it right first time. Learning many ways how not to do it gives you the edge over the person who hasn’t have that experience.

Don’t view failure as bad luck, instead look at each attempt to reach your goals as a triumph. There’s always something to learn, ways to grow, different viewpoints to see, and new opportunities waiting just around the corner. So get in and have a go. Fail fast and recover quickly to try again. Use every failure as an opportunity to learn and to grow as a person. Remember that every failure is like one step on the stairway to success. Above all else, remember this: If you never fail, you will never succeed.

So, have you failed in your life at something? What have you learned from it? If you don’t mind sharing, please tell me your failure story? I would love to hear it. 


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7 Reasons Why Failure is a Good Thing — 45 Comments

  1. This post made me stop and think a bit. I’ve been pretty down lately thinking about the regrets of ending a 7+ year relationship. Also my side business dropped in income and I’ll be forced to get a job again soon. Instead of looking at those things negatively, I’m going to have to focus on the positives and how I can learn from it all. It’s not the end of the world, just a minor obstacle that will force me to improve in those areas.

    • I am glad to hear you are going to try to approach your situation positively. This is really important in moving on and making progress towards what is next. Note though that we are all human and do have an emotional side and need to time to react and adjust. However the key is to not dwell on the negative and look forward.

  2. This reminds me of that Edison quote about how he did not fail a bunch of times before inventing the light bulb, he just found 10,000 ways that it didn’t work (or something like that…) :) When I was young I was very proud and found every way to avoid failure or detract attention from it. I still don’t like to fail very much but I’ve learned to brush myself off and be better. I don’t mind it nearly as much now as I used to and I much prefer it that way.

  3. We are a society WAY afraid of failing and looking stupid. It makes it easier for people with the fortitude to realize that you’re never going to win right away without experience….and experience often means failure.

    I, of course, have zero fear of failure, which is why I keep showing up to write silly stuff online every day.

  4. Completely agree: if you want to double your success, double your failures. Apart from that, the Pareto principle seems to be working with trying things as well – eight out of ten are not going to work. Successful people focus on the two and continue trying.

    On a different matter, hope you had a wonderful break and love to have you back.

    • Thanks Maria. We had a complete blast. I am very mentally rested however it has taken me over a week to get over the jet lag. When I get some time, I am going to post a few picks.

      I like how say it- double success means double failures. So true. We have to just keep trying until we succeed.

  5. Great post! Failure gives you invaluable experience to carry on to the next try. I agree that people are too afraid to fail. What’s the worse that can happen? Once you figured that out, you just need to commit and do it.

  6. I’ll freely admit I feel like I was failing at my job for the first 6 months! Now that I have that experience under my belt, I do feel stronger for it – and I learned a lot from it.

  7. Failure drains confidence and failure hurts our career growth. Failure also makes us down in front of others. To me failure has only one positive aspect, it teaches a lesson. If failure has so many advantages, why we all don’t want to fail all the time??

    • Some could see it that way for sure. People’s reactions to our results I think is the biggest issue of them all. If we weren’t so worried about what others thought, we would probably all take more risks and try different things. It is that concern over what others might say or do in response that holds us back.

      As far as confidence goes, I like to try to look at the opposite way. If I fail, I can be more confident that I have reduced the amount of ways to not do something and am closer to finding the right way.

  8. Far too many people want to hit the ball out of the park and believe it should all come easily to them. Sometimes it does, but knowing how to endure a difficult time and emerge victorious can be a valuable skill as well for most people. However, it seems that we would rather the “easy” route, even if it costs us growth, missed opportunities, and lack of clarity on the best direction for our lives.

  9. Great article Miss T, glad to see you back behind the keyboard. Here is one more quote for you: “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

    -Michael Jordan

  10. Couldn’t agree more…embracing failure is the first step to success! I saw an interview with the lady who invented Spanx after she was featured in Forbes, and that was essentially her mantra.

  11. Awesome post Miss T and welcome back! I really wished I was taught to fail more when I was younger. So much was stressed on success, but nothing was taught about failing being the critical first step. Thank you!

  12. They say that every failure is an opportunity, and I do agree. It is telling that many entrepreneurs actually started when they lost their jobs. Desperate times can sometimes be the exact spark that we need.

  13. I could not stop myself from writing this comment. It is true. Failure is just another side of success. A toddler falls so many times to learn how to walk. Our journey is full of failures and each of them shows us the path to success.

  14. Love it! Especially the part about creating new opportunities. Some of the greatest things that have ever happened to me were a direct result of a “failure” immediately preceding it. And Einstein…he has a quote somewhere about how everyone’s a genius, but you wouldn’t know the genius of a fish if you tried to form him to climb a tree. Or something like that. Everyone’s different and it takes some time to find the path that best suits you.

    • I haven’t heard of that Einstein quote before. I am going to have to look it up.

      You are like me. I too have had numerous good things happen post failures. Just makes us want to fail hey?!

      Things do take time. I know for me it took most of my 20’s to really figure out who I was.

  15. I failed at being a mother to my child. My first marriage was very abusive and my husband hid my daughter from me when she was 5 and told me I would never see or have a relationship with her. He then kicked me out. I have tried for nearly 20 years to have a relationship with her, with no avail. When she turned 18 I thought for sure she would want to have a relationship with me regardless of what her father has said. The only times I would hear from her is when her father would not give her money and she was told that, “Mom is rich, call her she’ll give you the money.’ Yeah, ok. So needless to say, when she would call I would not have the money, so I didn’t love her etc. Just as what he wanted her to think. Sure having to pay child support and have 3 full time jobs just to support myself was hard enough but it also took the pain away of missing her and most of all, her not knowing me as well as me not knowing her. Each time I have spoken to her it is all good for a few days, then low and behold it has to deal with money. Trust me when I say this, that I have given her plenty of money, but her dad has explained and imprinted in her mind that I am her go to piggy bank. Of course when she was young, I would purchase stuff out of guilt. But then it became known to me of what she was doing to me. Her mental and verbal abuse she has learned from her father was now instilled in her. I tried to get custody of her numerous times, but her father would manipulate the situation and make me the bad person of whom she does not want to live with. Now that it has been nearly 20 years, I still sorrow for her loss, but have learned that life must go on. I have never thought of myself but a failure which is what my ex wanted. But my Husband of 18 years, encourages me. With that being said, I am now a full time student in college going for my psychology degree to become a counselor to help people with similar situations that I have been. I know there are lots of people who has not had school or increased their education and counsel, but I want my knowledge and past to reflect that Life does go on. Sometimes it is painful, but like I have been told by my husband’s aunt… this too shall pass.

    • My heart goes out to you Colleen. What a story. I feel for your situation. What I love most about this though is your attitude. I think it is absolutely amazing that you have gone back to school to be able to help others deal with similar situations. A lot of people would just bury things and run away. I know that being with your daughter would mean the world to you and you know what, she may still come around as she gets older. Age does things to people’s appreciation for those in their lives. This too will pass and you will shine bright in the future by bringing that comfort to others. Cheers to you.

      • Thank you Miss T. I appreciate it. I like people to know that even in the worst situations, there is always a brighter side. It may take time, but God give you strength for one to get through the hurt and loss, just as loosing a loved one by death. It hurts but you will never forget their memories. Mine may be when she was young, but I will have those memories a life time and no one, not even my ex can take those from me.

  16. I totally agree that failure makes you stronger, that is if you can get back on that horse you just fell off. Failure is part of life and it just means that one thing didn’t work so better try another way to succeed. Great post!

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