Isn’t it great when we have those days when we feel like a superhero?! We have managed to get everything done we needed to do. Bills paid- yes! Work done- yes! Errands ran-yes! Worked out-yes! House cleaned-yes! These days are the best aren’t they?
Unfortunately, most days aren’t like this. Our lives are hectic and our to-do’s pile up. We end up feeling overwhelmed and worn out and a lot less like Superman. We are tired, irritable and feel like we are barely keeping up. All we want to do is just collapse and do nothing. Sound familiar?
Well, guess what; this is normal. Even though we have those days when we feel like we are actually a superhero, we need to remember that we aren’t. No one on this planet is. Superheros don’t exist.
Far too often, we get caught up in the “I can do it all” trap and we take on too many responsibilities. I used to actually tell people that I could do it all. When I reflect back on what my life was like a few years ago, I shake my head at the insanity of it all. I was barely sleeping more than 3-4 hours a night; I was in school full time as well as working full time; I was training for a marathon and still managed to find time to party with my friends and see my family. Now I have a hard time getting through an 8 hour work day some weeks.
You see, I feel into the trap of feeling like I was nothing if I wasn’t a superhero. I actually thought that I wasn’t a good person if I wasn’t able to keep up with all of these activities. I thought that the only way I could make people that mattered happy was by showing that I had no limits. Eventually I paid the price for this. I was spreading myself too thin and eventually collapsed. I wasn’t able to keep up with what I had going on. I was exhausted. I struggled to fulfill the commitments I had at this time and somehow pulled them off, but boy did I pay a price. I had to take some serious time off from anything other than the necessities to recoup mentally, emotionally, and physically.
Now, a few years later, I live a much more balanced life. I have come to realize that no one is a superhero and we all have our limits. No one can be everything to everyone all of the time. Now I do the best I can to keep up with my priorities but when I have a day where I just don’t have the pep in me to get things done or talk with someone, I take a break. I invest in myself by resting and recouping and taking some me time. This investment pays off because after an evening or two or a week or two of rest, I am able to get back to my activities and responsibilities full of vigor and vitality.
I am sharing this story with you today so that you can take comfort in the fact that no one is expecting you to be a superhero and to stop trying to be one. Remember, superheros don’t exist. Just do your best to be a super person- one who is productive, unproductive, or somewhere in between. Be the ideal balance for your life. Find out what your max is and function at 85% of this. Doing this will not only keep you strong and healthy, but it will make you much more productive at reaching your goals and existing in true happiness.
So, have you tried to be a superhero before? What is your story? Or, how have you been able to find balance in your life?